When is it time to consider divorce?

First things first: I love my husband. I really do. He’s my best friend in the world and we have a lot of fun together. But I’m also so… tired.

We both work full time. He technically makes more than me, but by a damn near negligible amount (he makes 7-8% more annually). We both WFH, but his role is far more flexible than mine. I start my work day sooner, but am still taking a “break” to get our youngest ready for daycare while he wakes up and gets dressed so he can drive him to daycare. Then, I’m able to get some work done before our oldest wakes up, but once she’s up then it’s making sure she’s fully ready for school and fed. I don’t TRULY start my work day until almost 2 hours after I log on, which means I’m busting my ass for the remainder of the day.

His schedule is a lot more flexible than mine, so twice today I came downstairs from our home office to find him just… laying in bed. There’s laundry to be done, dishes to be taken care of, recycling to take out, cat litter to be cleaned, and he’s just.. scrolling. I do all of the meal planning/cooking, most of the grocery shopping, I make sure our family has clean clothes that fit (he hasn’t bought himself a single article of clothing in at least five years), I plan all of our vacations, I do at least of half of the household chores, I’m the one waking up with our 18 month old every night bc he’s a terrible sleeper, we split bath time… it feels like I’m doing 95% of the mental labor for our household, while doing 70% of the childcare, and 100% of the cooking, while we split chores and income 50/50.

Am I insane for thinking that even though I love him, that my life would be so much easier if we were divorced? I’m seriously so close to telling him that if he wants me to do this much household labor, then he needs to figure out a way to increase his salary so I can quit my job, or I’m done.