I was outed at my job.

MTF. I work at a car dealership. Couldn’t find my wallet all this morning or afternoon, until later in the day a salesman came up to me and said that someone had found it in a car that the detail guys were cleaning (the detail guys find a bunch of things that the mechanics forget, mostly tools). Keep in mind, my wallet has my driver’s license, which has my preferred and now legal name, with a photo of me that is very, very different (feminine) from how I present at work (masculine). I knew someone was going to see it, possibly a couple people. Whatever.

What ensued next honestly made me want to throw up. Turns out one of the head honchos of finance went around the entire dealership, showing everyone the photo of me in my ID and laughing about it. It proceeded to trade hands into another person, a service advisor, who showed it to even more people. Now look, I don’t really care that everyone has seen the photo or knows/thinks I’m trans or whatever. I don’t care what kind of opinions they have about it either. And as it turns out, while getting a head count of who all had seen it, most people were respectful or at the very least apathetic. What makes me upset is the fact that there are at least two people who think it’s ok to go around showing everyone someone’s drivers license without their knowledge or permission. If they found an Instagram post of me looking like a girl, that’s fair game, I wouldn’t be upset at anyone other than myself if I was outed in that way. But my wallet, man. My fucking ID.

I want these people to be punished and I want them to at least be told that touting around someone’s drivers license while mocking them is not fucking acceptable behavior no matter the circumstances. I want these people to know that they’re incredibly lucky that I’m not ashamed of who I am and that they’re lucky they didn’t turn my entire world upside down, because God knows what someone else who wasn’t as chill as me, who wasn’t ready and anticipating being outed would do. I live in the reddest state in existence so my legal options are probably slim. I at least want to go to HR but I’m not sure. I just don’t want to be made an ass and have these people think that it’s ok to do what they did.