If we don’t hire help- will we die?

Sorry for the dramatic title lol. I’m hearing/reading a lot about how much a night doula/nurse helps with twins and while I’m super interested- my dearest most beautiful amazing partner is rather close minded/hard headed and this isn’t something I could ever see him going for. He’s just super old fashioned and would see this as a service only for the ultra rich and not something regular people use lol.

How many of you out there survived the newborn days without this kind of help? How good/bad was it? I’m still planning on trying to get him to try it out- but curious to know what things could look like without.