People lack warmth here.

Recently, there were so many posts about being lonely and not finding good friends/crowd here in Noida.

I've been here for almost two years. I'm an introvert and have a reserved nature personality, so generally I like to be alone. I don't socialize much.

I'm loving Noida so far, but for certain I've felt that people LACK warmth here. They're not friendly, at all. No brotherhood whatsoever.

Last year, I was having a conversation with a female friend (early 30s) of mine. She was cursing NCR and its people. That the people here don't care about anyone else but themselves. I thought/said what's wrong in it? She gave me an example of elderly person falling on the road and no one came to pick him up. She said if that happened in a small city, people would've came running towards him to pick him up. Not a great example to support her saying, but I got what she was trying to say.

Months after months I'm realizing that she was right all along.

Many people on those lonely posts comment to join a gym. Let me give you my own example. Going to a gym here for 1.5 years already. As I said, I don't socialize and like to stay alone. Same for the gym, I just go there to do a serious workout and come back home. That's my normal routine and I LOVE it. Or at least I used to love it.

Every gym has a vibe. But I've experienced that gyms here have NO vibes whatsoever. Reason? The people.

Back in hometown, I was a well-known in my gym(s). I have little bit of experience in weight lifting and have little bit of knowledge too. Same even in my hometown, I didn't talk to anyone in the gym unless someone asks me to spot him or give him some advice. My last gym had some serious heavy lifters in it. All used to hang around and talk, except me. But I was respected amongst them cause of my knowledge and experience.

Back to Noida, it's been 1.5 years here in a gym. Health and fitness is my passion, yet I don't enjoy my workouts like before. Cause people are so fucking dull here and no brotherhood whatsoever.

Used to spot and help few people here in my current gym. Then I went to my hometown and came back 4 months after. I joined the same gym in Noida, the same people I used to spot and help in the gym, reacted as they don't even know me, AT ALL. Only one guy shook my hand and asked where was I.

You can be selfish, but people here lack something different and deeper i.e. warmth. No goodwill and friendliness towards others. You can at least fake it, especially towards those who have had helped you in the past or present.

And that's something coming from an introvert like me who like(love) to stay alone. So I can (try to) imagine what you all are going through who are extroverts and/or like to hang around with people on regular basis.

Only thing we can do is to start cherish people around you. Have a friendly tone when you talk to someone. Be thankful and graceful towards people who've been good to you in any way.

That's it. That's my Noida experience so far. I hope, this city will have a great vibe/culture and life of its own in the future.