Is your life really "over" after children?
I (29F) want to start trying to have children in the next year or so. I've heard so many people, even people who want kids, who express that having children was like a death sentence to their social life. No more parties, no more traveling, no hobbies, no more social life unless its kid friendly, and losing most of your adult friends without kids. Well that is, I think, unless you have lots of money to hire help and cleaning services.
My own parents basically did this. Hardly ever went out, no friends, & no real hobbies. They had financial hardship and little family nearby that made babysitters/traveling out of the question. But I wonder, is this kind of islolation guaranteed? Is it possible to have kids and still be social, even if your not wealthy?
Edit: This had a bigger response than I ever could have expected! Thanks so much for your kind words.
Key takeaways:
Children can fit into the life you already have, but the first few years before they can go to school are the hardest.
Your priorities will change and that's okay.
Building and keeping a support system (friends & family) is essential.
Having kids is the end of selfishness and spontaneity, not your social life. Everything needs to be planned for especially when kids are really young.