How did other parents/adults view you as a child?

Looking back, I’m noticing a trend where my friend’s parents all seemed to love me. I was often that friend that they felt would lead their child down a good path or told that I was “good for them”. I was commonly the friend who was brought on family vacations and told I was “part of the family.” If my friends were ever on a phone call with their parents, they’d always ask if I was there and to tell me they say hi.

Not every parent, but some, would even dump the family lore or trauma dump on me from time to time, which I’m aware is not appropriate to do to a child. I’d hear comments like “I forget you’re only __ years old sometimes!”

Even making friends as an adult though, my friends parents feel a similar way about me and occasionally confide in me.

I was a pretty reserved kid, but I never felt like I my own age. I felt too old internally around kids my own age, but simultaneously too young for adults. I’d say I related more to adults though, so maybe that’s why they gravitated towards me?

I’ve read that most INFJs feel more mature than their age, so I thought this could be a common INFJ experience.

So how did other adults or parents outside of your own family view/treat you? Why do you think that is?