Jennette ended her friendship with Miranda

So, hear me out, I like Jennette a lot and LOVE Miranda so this isn’t meant to be an attack on either of them but since I have always been a very big fan of Miranda’s I tend to watch every podcast, interview and video that she appears on and I even have her ex best friend on Instagram and have even talked a little (she isn’t famous).

I always found very beautiful that even after the OG iCarly ended Jennette and Miranda continued to be very close to each other and would post a lot of pics on instagram of the times they traveled or did anything together. It seems that from 2012 to 2018 the were inseparable and Jennette would even become friends with all of Miranda’s closest friends from college so Miranda literally supported her during her lowest moments and allowed her to always be around her. For a while the only people that Jennette hanged out with were Miranda and her friends from college. Something happened in 2018 that they suddenly stopped posting pictures of each other on social media and tweeting each other. A lot of people speculated that nothing that deep happened between them and they just naturally drew apart from each other with time but I never really bought that version and was convinced that something else had happened (call me crazy if you want, I just knew there was more to the story).

When I read Jennette’s book I finally confirmed that something had happened even though she brushes it off saying that they just grew apart from each other, that was the first confirmation from one of them that they indeed weren’t close anymore. Fast forward to earlier this month Jennette did an episode on her podcast about ending friendships (that’s literally the title of the episode) and it finally cleared a lot of questions. In the podcast she talked about ending two different friendships and why/how it happened and although she doesn’t mention names the first friendship that she talks about is in fact the one she had with Miranda. She says that while going through therapy she realized that there were some things that she wanted to change about her life one of them was that she wanted to stop complaining so much and start seeing everything that was good about life and that as time went by she realized that this friendship was based off of complaining about everything, she says it was a “misery loves company” type of friendship to the point it became codependent in a way. She decided to radically change and stopped engaging every time she (Miranda) would complain about something and instead she started to say everything that was good about each day and about life. Jennette said that she noticed that Miranda was confused and worried because up to that point complaining was a thing they did so often that it was almost all they did so from that point onwards the friendship started to feel different and unnatural. The last straw was when Miranda made some comments that made Jennette mad because it seem like her life was a mess and Miranda was her savior. Lastly, Jennette decided to confront Miranda by sending her a series of emails email telling her that she wasn’t happy with the friendship anymore and that each time they hanged out she felt really down afterwards and that she was trying to change and that she wished Miranda would change too. She also said that in that email she told Miranda that she wished that she would start seeing all the positive in her own life and all of the things she had.

I don’t know if Jennette’s intention by sending her an email was to permanently end the friendship or if her goal was to continue with the friendship as long as Miranda changed her attitude but she said that Miranda got really mad and they had this email exchange and after that they stopped talking completely.

Jennette also mentioned in her book they both complained and felt guilty about complaining.

I just don’t know how to feel about this. Miranda did helped Jennette a lot throughout their friendship, she gave Jennette money to fund a sh!tty web series that she did, Jennette confessed in an interview that a couple of times she would go to Miranda’s house completely drunk and Miranda would take care of her, she would drive Jennette everywhere. I feel life the least Jennette could have done is to end the friendship face to face instead of doing it via email. I mean, she didn’t want to hear Miranda complaining but she didn’t saw anything wrong with showing up drunk at Miranda’s house? Or with the fact that Miranda paid for a lot of her things? She should at least be grateful that Miranda put up with her eating disorders for YEARS and supported her through all of it.

Miranda is so private and pretends that her life is perfect so I highly doubt we will ever hear her version of what happened but to be honest this isn’t the first of Miranda’s friendships to end weird. During her time at USC, Miranda met two twin sisters that went on to become super close to her but then their friendship also ended abruptly. She also had a friend who says that one day after being friends for more than a decade and making Miranda the godmother to her child, Miranda all of the sudden blocked her and never talked to her again. So as much as I want to defend Miranda I do think it’s weird that she has a pattern of loosing friendships but at the same time I don’t think Jennette is completely right because she has also had her fallings with friends and former coworkers and she pretends that she’s always right when she talks about the reason why she’s not friends with a person anymore.

What do you think?

This is the podcast episode I’m talking about:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4IPllaTIv4N2PLYRo0dPo6?si=y418DGlPQFizal-oJnFBUA