Some alloromantic asexuals seriously need to educate themselves on aromanticism and amatonormativity

First off, I'm not mad at anyone in particular, even if this is kind of a vent post, I'm moreso mad at society for being so overly amatonormativity-brained, which sadly affects most people.

As someone who is both aromantic and asexual I can speak on both issues as I've experienced both allo- and amatonormativity first hand, and while, of course, asexuality and aromanticism are two different things, I would hope people who are one or the other would at least have SOME awareness about the other, respectively, but some posts I've been seeing recently have proven to me just how ingrained into people's minds amatonormativity really is.

Even if it's "respectfully asking", how is asking aromantics "Why do you find romance unappealing? It's such a beautiful thing!" ANY different from an allosexual asking an asexual "Why do you find sex unappealing? It's such a beautiful thing!"?

Or why would it be okay to tell an aromantic "You'd understand why romance is talked about and loved by everyone if you experienced romantic attraction", but not to tell an asexual "You'd understand why sex is talked about and loved by everyone if you experienced sexual attraction"?

Both are completely uncalled for and not helpful at all if we want to dismantle harmful societal norms. I'm just asking for a little solidarity among people with a lack of attraction. That's all.