A love letter to trans women

Dear trans women,

I have so much love and care for you. You deserve so much love and tenderness and kindness. You deserve grace to be imperfect human beings. You deserve to have space held for your grief and your anger. You deserve to be cherished.

Through my relationships with trans women, my friends, my lovers, my confidants, I have grown so immensely as a person. I’ve learned to radically change the way that I think about the world we live in. My politics have sharpened. I’ve thought deeply about my relationship to my own gender, forming a deeper connection to my own womanhood.

I’m a person who has always been drawn to queerness, to queer spaces, to queer community but has often felt like an outsider looking in. I’ve found this to be a point of connection with a few trans women in my life who felt similarly approaching sapphic spaces. I think there is so much connection and commonality between cis and trans lesbians who came out as adults. As people who lived lives disconnected from our community and who we are, but are finding a new sense of joy and discovery in it as adults.

I’m grateful for having a life rich with so many brilliant, talented, beautiful, sexy trans women in it. The friends who support and challenge me, who I know I can count on to be there for me as I would be for them. The lovers who have melted at my touch and made me feel so, so gay and safe and seen.

You really do deserve the world.

With love, ❤️