Gf being off her rockers

I'm an anxious pansy that gets off on pleasing others. It's not too bad and I even forgot I had that side of me for a time. But then I started dating.

Now, my gf has a buttload of anxiety problems as well and she's going through a stressful phase where she has to do this exam that's hard as shit to become a lawyer and I want to show support.

Also we only ever manage to see each other on weekends, which doesn't help because I'm never in the know of how she is generally.

Today she said she couldn't see me this weekend.

In my head I was like "shit, did something happen? I should ask"

Then I guessed if it was this thing. She said no. Guessed another. Nope. Then cutting to the chase I asked if I could know if something happened. She answered with "thanks for the support".

The fight has begun.

Throughout it, I strayed way the fuck away from actually fighting, saying all I wanted to know was if she was ok. She kept making walls of text saying I'm horrible and never give her space.

Now, I've always been the type that if I can just solve stuff myself, even at the cost of hurting myself, I'd rather do that than continue fighting.

This time I managed to do different. I didn't fight her, but I also stood my ground finally.

I disengaged the fight killing off any attempts to hurt me and ended up with this: "To prevent this in the future, please consider my side and tell me what happens there with you. I'm not a genie to guess and not even that smart to do the stuff you want me to do without asking. Do you want anything from me? Ask. This is just an act of consideration."

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I don't know if I'm in the right. But I'm somewhat proud I stood up for myself.

I have a VERY hard time doing that when it's with her. Anybody else is no problem.