What is up with mallu relationships?

I am an extremely extroverted person, so I have a lot of friends. Almost every committed female friend I have, is dating a 'kalippan' (like, wot?). These kalippan bfs often pretty much command their gfs to wear a shawl over practically everything they wear. Most of these bfs are full grown adults. Relationships are supposed to keep you happy but in their case ella divasavum enthengilum paranjitt pinakkam indavum. I even have friends who have slit their wrists (thankfully not too deep) because, "avan ende aduth mindunnilla dii".

And y'all, I'm not ranting all of this because I'm jealous, I'm frankly not interested in dating rn. But I'm genuinely worried about my friends. Avare upadeshich upadeshich naakkile vellam vatti ennalland onnum indaayittilla. It's like they've given up their individuality and self respect to their 'chettayis'

I need your perspective on this, should I advice them more or should I just leave them be?