Anybody find it hard to be “playful”?

I don’t know how exactly to word the title but sometimes I take everything too seriously. Like if the other person is playing around (sarcasm, joking around) I sometimes will start thinking of the serious part of a joke and I’ll kill the mood. Done this with people in general, but It hurts more when I know I messed something up with my SO. It’s honestly really irritating to feel anxious about a subject because I want to bring up the serious parts in it instead. Makes me spiral in my mind because I start to think “she’s not gonna be playful anymore because I can’t take a fucking joke”. That kind of thing.