Judgy Nurse

So there’s a nurse that regularly takes care of our baby. She’s a by-the-book kind of nurse but also super lazy and judgmental. She always makes me feel like a horrible mom when I am there with her. A little more information, we have two toddlers at home and live almost an hour away from the hospital. I am not working but my husband had to return to work almost immediately. It’s been hard trying to get childcare so I can go to the hospital to be with our baby. But my husband and I have figured out a schedule that works for us where we switch off daily and go when we can, even if it’s late at night. We are up there almost every day and on days we can’t, we call one of our 4 support people and make sure someone else is up there.

When I got there yesterday, this particular nurse said multiple times “no one came yesterday” or “no one was here.” She has also said in the past, “I waited for you all day but you never showed up.” And then I asked her for help with some of his cares (because it was my first time doing it) and she rolled her eyes and told me I should be pro by now. I felt by her tone, like I was inconveniencing her… yet she was sitting in her chair on her cell phone. And then when I left, she asked if I was coming back in a few hours. I understand it’s helpful for the nurses to know when the parents will be there, but the way she asks… it almost feels like she wants to know if we’ll be back during her shift. I could be reading into it, but I’ve not had a single nurse other than her ask questions or make comments like that.

My husband says she doesn’t make comments like that when he is there, so I don’t know if it’s just me…. He has suggested that we ask that she not care for our baby anymore. I feel like she takes care of our son well, especially with how by-the-book she is, so I feel kind of bad. But some days I already feel shitty and it definitely affects my mental health some when I am there and constantly getting remarks like I should be better or doing more.