Does anyone feel a sense of confidence after becoming a mom/parent ?

I feel so much more confident now that I’m a parent. I have no issue in telling people how I feel or saying no to people. My mil came to visit the baby and wants to come again Valentine’s Day weekend. I straight up said , “ no that probably won’t work for us”. And the room got dead silent. I didn’t even care. My mom came and tidied up my house while I was in the hospital. Which I was grateful for, but I found out she gave someone my hospital information, which is how they tried to get into my l&d room. I told her to never do that again and that it was a violation. She of course tried to deflect and say she did me a favor by cleaning my house. But it didn’t give her the right to do what she did. & I called her out on it. It’s so funny because I always have been a people pleaser, and that people pleasing bone has left my body.