would you spend the holidays without your kids?

this is the first time since my oldest has been born that my in laws will be in town for christmas. we don’t have a great relationship with my in laws. i see them more than my husband bc he works away from home and im here all the time and to let them have a relationship with their grandkids. he talks to them but only sees them once every few months on the odd weekend he’s home when they come over. MIL invited us to spend december 26-28 with them but my husband thinks it’s too much and said hes willing to spend christmas day with them. the thing is he doesn’t want me to go with them. he’s told me a few times he doesn’t want me to have a relationship with his family he just says it’s easier for him if i don’t. he says wants to take the kids to his mum on christmas day and i spend christmas with my family. i don’t want to not spend christmas with my kids but i don’t want my in laws to not get them on christmas bc my husband doesn’t want me to go.

edit bc im realizing this question will be asked: he thinks it’s easier if i don’t have a relationship with his family because he lies to them a lot and i don’t. this all started years ago when he tried to tell them they couldn’t see the kids because I didn’t want them too. which was not true at all i have never once said that he just didn’t feel like driving to see them. and when we all caught him in that lie that’s when he decided he doesn’t want us to talk because if we don’t communicate we can’t catch him in his lies