Do I owe my husband a 3 month “reset” vacation?
Hello,
My husband and I have been married for 2 years and are considering kids soon. We are both 31 years old and have no debt. I’m a teacher and he is a sales rep for a job hunting site.
My husband just informed me that he’ll be paying the house off this year and really needs a sabbatical of some sort. His job requires lengthy hours and can be stressful. After quarantine started, he hasn’t really left the house much at all. It’s been a year and a half of our home and he wants a “reset”. He’s been proposing that we leave everything behind for 3-6 months and just travel. Perhaps work a remote job with less demanding work schedule (for he and myself) and just enjoy life before we come back to “reality” of home life.
It’s been a bit for him to get into the mindset of having kids. I’m already there but am being patient with him. When he’s ready, I’ll be ready. He says he feels “cheated” of the travel time and intimate times we could have had this year but wants to “make up” for lost time and go travel.
Do you think we should do it? I feel like I owe it to him. I pay $1000 of our $3500 in bills monthly and he has almost single-handedly paid off our entire house (minus my 20k down payment addition).
He’s thinking maybe next year in January doing it but would wait till the summer if I still wanted to teach.
Let me know what you think. Pros cons all of it. I don’t even really know where to start to process it all.
Edit: My reasons for not wanting to do it are few.
- I’ve become a homebody and don’t like to be away from home for long. (10 days has been my max)
- We have a 15 year old parrot I would miss dearly (me, not so much him)
- Fear of the unknown.