Marrying an Indian as an NRI
Hello everyone!!! 26M, born in India, raised in Europe (holding European citizenship), doctor (such a cliche). Given the title of the post and the subreddit, my question is regarding marriage. I am at the age where people are starting to annoy me about marriage, and during my most recent trip to India, my mother gave my uncle (her brother) my astrology chart to get the ball rolling. She is very keen on me getting married to a girl born and brought up in India.
I am posting in this subreddit looking for advice and other people'e experiences. I have a lot of fears going into this, some practical, some maybe impractical. For example:
What if the girl and her family agree to the marriage only for visa/citizenship purposes and she dumps me after obtaining citizenship?
I have no intention of living in India for any period of time. Even if a girl agrees to marry and move to Europe, what if she decides that she doesn't like it and goes back to India and wants a long distance marriage? (disliking Europe could be due to any number of reasons, but that's besides the point)
What if we have children, and she suddenly decides to pack up and go back to India and take our child with her and refuses to come back?
I have seen plenty on r/india and r/InsideIndianMarriage and on the Internet in general about Indian women taking advantage of domestic violence laws and making false accusations. What if such a false accusation is made against me or my parents of abuse? In the 20+ years that my family and I have lived abroad, I don't think we have even received a minor fine, let alone the legal trouble associated with an accusation of abuse.
These are just a few examples of the myriad of thoughts running through my mind. I am someone who generally likes being in control of myself and my surroundings and situation and cherish my freedom. Arranged marriage would be a major change, especially when you introduce the chaotic element of an international marriage.
I would appreciate your thoughts, opinions and experiences in this regards, whether it be personal experiences or experiences of your friends and family. Am happy to answer any (reasonable) questions.