18M Have started to hate my dad

  • Flirting and Potential Cheating:
    • I saw his Facebook and Instagram, and he flirts with other random females.
    • I'm sure he has cheated on my mom; they had many fights when I was just 10 or 11.
  • Disrespecting and Mistreating Mom:
    • He treats my mom like a maid.
    • He comes home late many times a week and brings raw chicken or fish at 11 or 12 at night, asking her to cook it.
    • He doesn’t even call to inform her that he’s bringing food or to ask her to prepare it.
  • Financial Irresponsibility:
    • He sold my mom's entire jewelry to pay off his old debts.
    • He borrowed money from my uncle, aunt, and other relatives to marry off my bua.
    • When they ask for their money back, he just ignores them and fights with my mom.
    • My mom has to handle the tantrums of the relatives.
  • Drinking and Disruptive Behavior:
    • He has started drinking and comes home drunk, saying ridiculous things.
    • He snores loudly like an elephant, not letting my mom sleep.
    • Many days of the week, he wakes up at 3:30 AM and makes my mom wake up to make tea for him.
  • Financial Control and Emotional Abuse:
    • He doesn’t give my mom money for basic needs like vegetables or personal items.
    • He brings these things for her, but if by mistake he gives her money, he asks for every detail of where it was spent.
    • He doesn’t give me pocket money either.
    • He watches web series or Facebook videos loudly when I’m studying, and when I confront him, he just shouts back at me.
  • Empty Promises and Unrealistic Expectations:
    • He has high expectations for me, saying that he will do this and that for me, but he never does.
  • Business Failures and Financial Struggles:
    • He has taken bank loans from every family bank account and delays the installments for his business.
    • His business hasn’t brought any returns, and we are living paycheck to paycheck.
    • I am preparing for the JEE, but we couldn’t afford coaching, and I’m a dropper.
  • Desire to Leave:
    • I really want to leave this house ASAP and take my mom with me.
    • I don’t know why my mom loves him so much, but I know he doesn’t love her.
  • Conflicted Feelings:
    • I have a soft spot for him because he’s my dad, but he just keeps hurting me and my mom and creating havoc in our lives.
    • My mom thinks he loves me a lot, but his actions don’t reflect that.
    • I also thought he loved me, but I’ve slowly started to let go of that thought.

  • Mental Health Struggles:

    • I really want to talk to a therapist because my mental health is struggling.
    • he makes her cry man and i develop more hate towards him for it
    • what should i do when my own father is like this

  • TLDR - I'm deeply hurt by my father's behavior. He disrespects my mom, flirts with others, and ignores the pain he causes her. His financial irresponsibility and emotional abuse make life unbearable, and I'm stuck between my love for him and the anger I feel for how he treats us. My mom believes he loves me, but his actions show otherwise, and it's breaking me. I just want to escape this toxic environment, protect my mom, and focus on my future without the constant pain he causes. My mental health is struggling, and I need help to make it through.