What do y'all Girls/Women want? Be honest

Straight up, You do none of the messaging and approach despite crying about equality but still put no effort into approaching any guy. Try joining a club to get closer with girls and hopefully get a date, "NOO YOU'RE BOTHERING WOMEN IN THEIR SPACES", Try being friends with someone before asking them out, "NOO YOU'RE MANIPULATING THEM BY MAKING THEM THINK YOU'RE A FRIEND AND THEN BREAKING HER HEART", Try cold approaching girls, "You're making them uncomfortable", Try giving a note "Get's posted on twitter to be made fun of". I just don't get it. Nothing works. I know it sounds like I'm complaining but I'm tired. I'm studying a good field, I'm in ok shape. I try my best when I speak. I have other female friends. I have a small social circle. But what am I missing? At this point I'm almost done