Did anyone ever try to give you justifiable reasons for why you were being rejected?

I remember early on before I realized I was going to be an fa getting rejected a lot.

But people would always justify why I was being rejected with silly false reasons. Like for instance I remember this girl rejected me in high school whenever I asked her out. She didn't even answer me and kept walking. And I talked to a counselor about it and the counselor told me

"it probably had nothing to do with you, she was just having a bad day. Try talking to her another time and I'm sure she will go on a date with you"

Then I remember asking another girl out and getting the same treatment and I remember hearing some older guy tell me

"Girls are just like that all the time when they like someone. She's probably really shy and just had a crush on you""

I used to hear stuff like this all the time early on whenever I was a teenager and it really held me back. It forced me to not take accountability for who I actually was and so I held on to a false hope for too long. If someone would have told me that I was just weird or strange or dorky or unattractive it would have helped me a lot more. I didn't start realizing the true magnitude of how undesirable I was until my early twenties because of this type of toxic reinforcement..