Tell me about your carat sizes & experiences

Hi! My partner and I are designing rings together 🥲 I’m so excited!! I went to a jeweler and after MUCH deliberation and searching for the perfect stone, I found a 4.16 radiant cut.

I absolutely fell in loooove with the stone. But decided to sit on it before pulling the trigger. I’ve since heard a lot of feedback from friends and strangers than anything above a 3.5 is impractical. Too big, knocks into things, get stuck in your hair, too flashy so you’re constantly worried. My concern is that I have fat fingers and I feel like things look weird.

And now I don’t know what to do. So I’m looking for advice, experiences, or anything else you might have to share regarding your diamond size/carat. Maybe I’m overthinking everything and being crazy! Thank you!!