I did everything I could, now I’m letting go.

Hey everyone, I’m writing this mostly to process what’s happened, and maybe to find some support from people who get it.

My partner and I recently broke up. We loved each other deeply, but she told me she didn’t feel like she loved me as much as I loved her. She felt guilty—like she wasn’t giving me the love I deserved. It hurt like hell, but I told her we could walk away before things ever turned toxic. We cried together, and agreed to part ways.

But after that, I couldn’t shake the feeling that I needed to do everything before calling it quits. I didn’t want to look back one day and regret not fighting harder. So I poured my heart out in messages, and I even brought her her favorite dessert —just to show her I cared. But when I saw her, I saw it in her eyes. Shock. Not joy. That’s when it hit me—she really needs space. And maybe… she’s already let go.

So, now I’m doing the hardest thing—I’m going no contact. Not because I want to punish her, but because I finally understand that I’ve done all I can. I fought for us. I loved her with everything I had. But I can’t make her choose me. She has to come to that on her own—or not at all.

It hurts so much. I still love her. I still see a future with her. But I know the best thing I can do now is focus on myself, even though it feels wrong. I’m trying—hitting the gym, staying busy—but there are moments where I just want to rot in bed.

I am in shock and in pain.

Has anyone else been here? How did you get through the days when your heart is still clinging to hope? Does the pain really ease with time? I could use some encouragement right now.

Thanks for reading.