A person keeps using my email address
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/desbyrne
Originally posted to r/pettyrevenge
A person keeps using my email address
Original Post: January 3, 2025
Like other recent posters, my email address is also continuously used by another person. I get all sorts of serious correspondence all the time in response to THIS ONE PERSON in another country who insists on using my email address, because he shared my same first and last name.
He keeps setting up Utility etc accs using my email and I just use forget password to access & close them. I got his address and posted a bunch of hard copy erroneous correspondence asking him to stop, but it continued. Lately, he booked a train ride and hotel nights to the large capital city of his country. I reluctantly emailed back the hotel, cancelling the “incorrect booking in my name.”.
After a few days, he emailed me direct using a friend’s email account to berate me costing him £300 hotel cancellation charge. After I foolishly replied saying sorry as I didn’t intend costing him money, he sent a nasty reply saying “he hoped I had learned my lesson”! I ignore him after than. There were two more incorrect emails after that (deliberate revenge I’m guessing), but the flood of incorrect emails seems to have stopped since.
Relevant Comments
Commenter 1: Don't cancel bookings, CHANGE THEM!
OOP: Oh that’s a better idea. Thanks.
Commenter 2: This happens to me sometimes. Don't cancel the accounts, update the PW and lock them out. Sign them up for extra services. Change any public facing info to something unpleasant.
OOP: Good idea. I don’t want to be nasty, but it’s so irritating and went on for years from this same guy.
Downvoted Commenter: Why? Quit being a pussy. This is 100% his fault and you’re enabling by apologizing like some cuck. Tell him to get fucked and if he continues using your email you’ll continue to fuck his life over.
OOP: Of course I didn’t apologise; I only said it wasn’t my intention to cost him £300, but he needs to stop using my email address. I don’t believe in responding aggressively in writing - not even now to you. 😂
A person using my email - it continues..: January 8, 2025
A few days ago I posted how I had to cancel a hotel booking in my name to try and stop a person in another country who for years insists on using my email address as if it was his own. It's so stressful, I keep on changing my email password in case the idiot is planning a takeover of my desirable address - however unlikely and impossible I know.
I had hoped this person would have learned from his lesson from the hotel incident, but this morning I received a webcast invite to attend a parent/teacher meeting for his son. The message is full of very specific details about his son, the subjects and the teachers. I was about to email the alternate friend's address (he recently used to lecture me for cancelling his hotel booking). My plan was to inform him that I fully intended joining the online meeting as I am the invitee. As a matter of urgency, he should inform the school and also he had better update any other previous sites where he has incorrectly used my email address. However I am beyond frustrated at this point and am now contemplating just clicking in to join the online meeting as I have been invited.
Decisions, decisions...
I will update after the online meeting.
Relevant Comments
Commenter 1: I’m surprised you haven’t interfered with this persons life online more.
Commenter 2: Do not join the meeting. Inform the school that they have sent sensitive information about a child to a random stranger just because the child's father doesn't know how emails work. Perhaps draft up a template email to go out anytime something similar happens.
Email the person wrongly using your email address and tell them that you will not tolerate further intrusions on your time by their ignorant behaviour and that every email you receive from them will result in you making cancellations and resetting passwords to their online services.
Then maybe send them instructions on how to set up their own email on a free online email service.
Commenter 3: You should definitely join in the meeting and let the adults know that the boy's father can not be trusted to receive communications from the school because he has given the school your email address and not his own. Let them know he has repeatedly used your email address although you do not understand his thinking on how this subterfuge benefits him. The school needs to know that if they have an emergency or want to communicate with the father of the boy, they need to insist on his real email address and that they should insist he verify it.
I'm glad you're being careful and changing passwords, etc. I would worry he's going to use your email address somehow that could reflect badly on you.
OOP: That’s a very good point at the end that I hadn’t previously considered. I was tempted to join the meeting as an invitee, but I don’t want this to descend into mutual destruction. Thanks.
Commenter 4: My responses to invites, job interviews, and appointments for the doofuses using my email address are to please cancel because I’m absolutely not attending.
OOP: Good phrase there. I’ll incorporate it in my message to the school.
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