AIO: my boyfriend looks at other women.
My boyfriend looks at other women online. He looks at girls on instagram. He likes their photos and sends them to his buddy, sometimes he follows them too. It’s never a girl with less than 300k followers but it still bothers me.
It’s always girls with big butts, and like pear shaped/hourglass figures. I have kind of a similar body type but I’ve gained a little bit of relationship weight (we both have) and I’ve been feeling a bit insecure about that but it’s something I’ve been actively working on. Like self confidence and working on losing the weight, for myself yk. But these girls look like Barbie dolls and it makes me feel insecure that he likes looking at them so much.
I told him maybe a week or so ago that it makes me feel insecure and makes me feel like he’s not attracted to me and that it hurts me that he even wants to look at other women. He apologized for making me feel that way and he assured me that he is attracted to me and that he wouldn’t do that again. Fast forward to now, I’ve gone through his phone (which is how I found out in the first place) and I found two new girls that he followed, As well as a post he sent to his buddy after we had our conversation about everything.
At this point I’m not even mad, I’m just disappointed. I love my boyfriend and I know he loves me but if he can’t stop looking at other women (even if it’s online) then I don’t know if I can continue to be with him. I feel like this sounds crazy but it’s instagram. It’s not porn hub. If it was just porn I wouldn’t bat an eye. But instagram is so personal. And him following them is even more disappointing. Am I overreacting?