Parents looking for advice

Our son is 22. He is high functioning autistic. He has severe anxiety and is allergic to the typical meds available for treatment. He had a therapist for 7 years growing up and his therapist told him right before his 21st birthday that alcohol helps people with anxiety. (Our son does not have friends, never has, d/t autism social challenges). Around that time, he applied and was hired for a job at Walmart and he did great at first. He is highly intelligent and did the job wonderfully, but he became more and more overwhelmed d/t his anxiety. His co workers also, recommended alcohol as a relaxing drink. He tried alcohol. He was fully aware that both sides of our extended families have serious genetic predisposition to alcoholism.

Within a few weeks he had lost his job, was drinking in a fully addicted manner. He would try to quit, but just couldn’t stay with it. The cravings are to bad he says.

It’s been over a year. We have taken him to the hospital multiple times. He has been around .4 many times. We know it’s fatal Levels and he does too.

He attended part time outpatient rehab counseling, mental health counseling and AA. He has made it to around 90 days, and then boom drinking again.

He drinks for about 10-12 hours all night every other night until he literally blacks out and eventually falls asleep. He is drinking close to 30 cans of beer and hard tea each time. He falls over and over, he floods his backyard apartment multiple times, he is going to die.

My question is this…. At what point do we as parents make the decision to call and have him taken for hospitalization to become legal guardians for him. When do we make that decision to force this.

My husband says if we do that, he will kill himself… I say he is going to die anyway. How do we not try to save him?

How do we not try? He is Autistic, so it makes it easier to get guardianship, but we aren’t sure that is the right decision.

Anyone with any advice for us is welcome.

Side note. We don’t buy any alcohol for him. He was able to work for about 2 years and saved his money. That’s how he pays for it. But, he is getting very low on money… we believe.