AITAH for being brutally honest to my wife about cheating?
So this happened over the past weekend, we were at a party with friends and this question popped up.
We essentially had a small never had I ever game, which is pretty childish looking back but we're all in our later 20's so it isn't that bad.
One of the questions was: Never have I ever forgiven a partner for cheating. A few people counted that as something they did, including my wife.
I expressed my surprise about it, since I wouldn't expect her of all people to give someone a chance after cheating.
Other than that, the night went on just fine and I was driving us home. (I don't drink, I hate alcohol) I asked her about the whole situation with forgiving a partner for cheating.
In her words, her ex-boyfriend of so many years back cheated on her. He came clean about it and they tried again, but then he went and did it again in the same manner.
She said she didn't regret giving him a second chance and would do the same if I happened to cheat.
I figure this is just her being drunk, I have no intention of cheating on her. In absence of any answer from me, she asks if I'd do the same for her.
I bluntly told her that I wouldn't be able to forgive cheating, nor would I ever expect to be forgiven for cheating if I somehow ended up doing it.
Short of physical abuse or other heinous acts, its the worst thing you can do to someone you love.
I don't know what happened to her after that, but she stopped talking the rest of the car ride. Ever since then, she's been dead silent around me.
She isn't her usual bubbly self and is withdrawn when I have conversations with her. She avoids any questions about what happened on Saturday night too.
I asked our mutual friends about any context I may have missed, and a few of them said that she must have taken it a bit too hard.
As in me not being able to forgive her for hypothetical cheating means I don't love her as much as she loves me.
Her two oldest friends kind of implied that I shouldn't have been so blunt about it.